Relationship coaching
Relationship coaching for couples who want to get back on track.
Talking in circles, arguing about the same things, or living more like flatmates than partners? I help couples, and people in a relationship that's struggling, understand what's really going on and change it, with practical steps you use at home, not just on the call.
Free 30-minute call. Online, wherever you are.
Sound familiar?
Most couples I work with are here.
- The same argument keeps coming back, however many times you talk it through.
- One of you feels attacked, the other shuts down, and nothing gets resolved.
- Trust has taken a knock and you're not sure how to rebuild it.
- The closeness and intimacy have faded, and you've become a good team at running a house, not much more.
- Life has changed (a baby, a move, a new job, long distance) and the relationship hasn't caught up.
- You want to work on it, but your partner isn't sure, or you don't know where to start.
How I work
Practical, not endless talking.
Coaching is about what you do next. In each session we look at what's actually happening between you, then agree one or two specific changes to try before the next one: how you raise a difficult subject, how you respond when things heat up, how you make time for each other again.
Beneath the words
I'm certified by the Paul Ekman Group in reading emotions and facial expressions. I notice what's going on beneath the words, the moment one of you tenses up or switches off, and help you both see it too.
Together or on your own
Sessions work as a couple or with one of you on your own. Change in one person changes the relationship.
Support in between
You can message me on WhatsApp when something comes up, so you're not left on your own between calls.
How it works
From first call to real change.
Free intro call
Thirty minutes. We talk about where things are and what you both want. If coaching isn't the right fit, I'll tell you.
Sessions online
About an hour, together or one of you on your own, at times that suit you, including early mornings, evenings and weekends.
Practice between sessions
Specific things to try at home, with me on WhatsApp in between. Face to face in Dubai, and in the UK when I'm there and timings work.
Client stories
In their words.
I used to overthink everything....texts, dates, even eye contact. ctrl.connect helped me shift from anxiety to authenticity. I feel safe in my own skin now, and my relationships are deeper because of it.
Questions.
Does my partner have to take part?
It helps, but it isn't essential. Change in one person changes the relationship, and many people start on their own and bring their partner in later.
Is this the same as couples therapy?
It's coaching: practical and focused on what you want to change from here, with things to try between sessions. If I think you'd be better served by different support, I'll tell you honestly.
Can we do this online?
Yes. Most sessions are by video call, so it works wherever you both are, even if you're in different places.
What happens on the free call?
We talk about where things are, what you both want and whether coaching is the right fit. No pressure, and no obligation.
Stop going round in circles.
Book a free 30-minute call and let's look at what's really going on.